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By Alan Yusko

For those of you who are married, I challenge you to remember your vow made to God. It went something like this: ...TILL DEATH DO WE PART! Yes, that's the vow! Here is what the Bible says:

Eccl 5
4 When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed.
5 Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay.

Marriage is a permanent deal when ends at the death of one of the partners. In these days of apostasy some who profess to be Christians are acting just like the secular lost people. The lost are having marriage breakups at an unusually high level. The same is true with the professing Christians. Some divorce, remarry, divorce, remarry etc... and all of it supposedly 'in the Lord'. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but those who marry again when their spouse is still living are committing adultery. See the below verse:

Matt 5
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

It is pretty clear isn't it. There are cases when divorce can be justified. However remarriage is another situation. When the spouse is still living, to remarry is to commit adultery. I know people who have done this have justified what they have done again and again. They don't like hearing what I just said. But it is still true!

Here is another example from the Bible that shows the permanence of the marriage relationship:

Rom 7
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

Notice above that remarriage can occur once the spouse is dead. This is the only occasion for remarriage.

Of course marriage must always be with a fellow believer. There is no such thing as missionary dating with the lost. The Lord wants His people to marry someone who is also a Christian.

What happens when a marriage breaks down? Children are hurt the most. Also remember that God expects His people to raise a Godly seed. Divorce damages children and actually leads them away from God. Here are a few things that happen tot he children at divorce:

- Scarred children. Children will be hurt for the rest of their lives. Only God knows the extent of the damage. Children need both their mothers and fathers in a family environment.

- Rebellion. Children from broken homes tend easier toward rebellion. Without a proper family environment, they are more susceptible to the tricks of the devil. This would include all kinds of rock and roll and other worldly pleasures and pursuits.

James 4
4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

- Bad role model and children may accept the warped morals of their parents. I've seen examples where parents go mate hunting after divorce to the neglect of the children. Also, since remarriage while the spouse is alive is adultery, the moral standards of the children will be lowered. The children will be eyewitnesses to their parent as they justify their wrongdoing.

- Responsibility before God. Christians are accountable for their actions and their lifestyle. One day we will all stand before God and give an account.

- Children need to be raised and taught in the ways of the Lord. It is the parents responsibility to train their children in the Scriptures. When the family breaks up, that process is greatly damaged. Here are some verses commanding children to be taught about the Lord by their parents:

Deut 4
10 Specially the day that thou stoodest before the LORD thy God in Horeb, when the LORD said unto me, Gather me the people together, and I will make them hear my words, that they may learn to fear me all the days that they shall live upon the earth, and that they may teach their children.

Deut 6
6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:
7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

In conclusion. Don't get married if you cannot accept the responsibility. Only marry in the Christian faith and avoid an unequal yoke with a lost person. Finally remember the goal to raise a Godly seed. A broken family certainly is not a good environment to perform that task.

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